Procrastination is one of lifes greatest paradoxes because it involves the incomprehensible choice to avoid doing something that we would certainly be better off doing.
Procrastinating is something were often guilty of, despite its harmful consequences: stress, anxiety, depression, guilt, identity issues, self-doubt, tarnished reputations, lost opportunities, low self-esteem and unreached goals.
Researchers have studied the phenomenon extensively, andPsychology Today dubbed itthe most common form of self-sabotage.
Procrastination is categorized as a self-limiting paradox because, when you make the choice to procrastinate, youre actively limiting yourself, instead of achieving more for yourself.
We often procrastinate due to some sort of emotional obstacle or mental blockade. The emotions drivingprocrastinationinvolve a fear of success, feelings of self-doubt, lack of self-esteem or even a psychological attachment to self-deprivation.
A deprivation attachmenttypically occurs in individuals who have grown accustomed to disappointment. Theyre used to feeling disadvantaged, empty or unfulfilled.
The attachment occurs when youre so used to your life going a certain way, so its tough to picture something better.If youre familiar with deprivation, disappointment, failure or feeling unfulfilled, then its possible youve associatedyourself with it and actively seek it out. Its a destructive form of self-sabotage.
Youll know you have a deprivation attachmentif you have consistent negative feelings or thoughts, you engage in acts of self-sabotage or you have self-destructive tendencies, including substance abuse, procrastination, over-eating or underperforming.
For example, if your emotional blockades behind procrastination involve low self-esteem, thenyoure likely familiar with failure, so you dontidentify with being productive.
Perhaps youre not actively pursuing your goals because you fear failure, or even success.Or perhaps others have doubted you, and its inadvertently caused you to doubt yourself.
The deception of limits will ruin you.
Its as though youre keeping yourself locked up behind metaphorical prison bars. Believe that your capabilities are limitless, actively stay focused on your pursuit of new achievements and acknowledge the possibilities of whats bigger and better. Otherwise, you might never bemotivated enough to stop procrastinating.
Once you recognize your specifichang-ups and the forms of self-sabotage associated with these damaging patterns, you can be more conscious in your actions. In time, you can consciously decide to seize each day instead of wasting valuable time that could be spent perfecting, performing and achieving goals.
Having a fear of success adds another layer of stress to the mix, but its still possible to overcome. Some of us cant imagine what achieving real success would be like.The fear of the unknown and the fear of success go hand-in-hand.
Once I thoroughly researched procrastination, I soon realized it was the number one cause of my stress and anxiety.
On Wait But Why, Tim Urban further broke down some of the psychology behind procrastination:Procrastinators obviously engage in unearned leisure time, which isnt actually fun because its completely unearned, and the air is filled with guilt, anxiety, self-hatred and dread.
It makes sense that, if youre doing one thingwhen you should be doing something else, youre going tofeelanxious the entire time youre doing it.
I guess what Im trying to say is, its simply not worth it. Procrastinating is, if nothing else, completely nonsensical.
Whenever you find yourself procrastinating, take a minute to step back fromwhat youre doing, look at your actions and decide if its helping you get to where you want to be. Ask yourself if these distractions line up with your goals. Odds are, they probably dont.
Instead of sabotaging yourself, fight for yourself.
Life isnt a season of Big Brother, where its up to a jury of evicted house guests to determine whether or not you win or lose.
You are in control of how rich, full and successful your life will be, and thats actually a pretty scary thought. But what you become is in no ones hands but your own.
Imagine what you could get done if you developed a sense of urgency, instead of falling into a habit of procrastination. Why prolong your lifes mediocrity, when you could act now and become something great?
In general, change is scary, but dont hold yourself back because youre afraid of change. Embrace it.If you do, the best year of your life could soon follow.
Originally found athttp://www.elitedaily.com